Alex Czop M.A., LCPC
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor
Ever wonder what it’s like to be a therapy client? As a clinician, I often get asked what’s the hardest part about being a client.
I believe, that the hardest part of working with a client is addressing their denial. Encouraging others to acknowledge their mistakes requires a strong client relationship. That relationship has created self-esteem in previous appointments. Denial is challenging particularly due to the risk a therapist takes with their rapport if they misread the clients motivation to change. Sometimes denial manifests in monotonous forms, such as daily interactions and responsibilities. Therefore, it takes patience and an overall positive self regard with client’s to discuss these matters.
Clients who come into therapy with an open mind and are willing to address their concerns with accountability and thorough self reflection make the most progress and continue to grow in life. If you are considering coming into therapy, be willing to take on self reflection, as well as look at your daily habits that may be contributing to the current challenges you are facing. Denial often hides, great change, and it is this change that often leads to more balance in life. Be willing to make that change and move past your denial.
What it’s like to be a therapy client, in practice
Being a client is an active role, not a passive one. In our first few sessions, we focus on building trust and getting a clear picture of what brought you in. From there, each appointment becomes a working conversation: we notice patterns, name the habits that are holding you back, and practice healthier responses that you can carry into daily life between sessions.
It is normal to feel nervous before a first appointment, and it is just as normal to leave some sessions feeling challenged. That discomfort is usually a sign of growth. Clients who stay curious about themselves, keep their appointments consistently, and speak openly about setbacks tend to see the most lasting change. If you have been thinking about starting therapy, you do not need to have it all figured out first — showing up willing to reflect is enough to begin.