Lexie Siegmann M.S., LMFT
In the age of technology, it is easy to see a decrease in verbal and physical connection. This appears even more so with couples. Some discuss having difficulty finding time to talk or have deep conversations. So, this blog features some apps that are made to help connect couples together even with a busy schedule. Apps like…
paired and agape specifically are designed for connection and building intimate relationships. These apps hold several different genres of questions that couples might not think to ask themselves. These include, communication, sexual intimacy, financial conflict and more. These apps are not a substitute for couples therapy but rather an aid for the growth of the relationship. As well as a healthy use of screen time.
Referencing one of the 5 love languages by Gary Chapman. “Quality time” involves spending uninterrupted time with a partner. Some people prefer certain activities like dinner dates, concerts, weekend getaways or even a movie night at home. No matter what the event, quality time involves undivided attention and a mutual respect of time spent together. When working with couples who value quality time with a partner it is important to discuss the behaviors that hurt this love language. One of these behaviors includes excessive phone use. When an individual is using their phone especially during a date night this can negatively affect the relational connection.
Utilizing couple’s apps can help individuals not feel so hurt by excessive phone use as the time on the app is meant to connect partners and gather new information to discuss in person. My husband and I both value quality time and since we both have busy schedules, we have been using the “paired” app to answer deeper questions about ourselves. It also gives us time to discuss our responses and learn new things about one another. As an LMFT myself I can say these apps can help couples who feel stuck in repetitive patterns find other ways to communicate their needs and grow together.